Extreme Measures

So many of us feel this way . . . 

by 1Wise-Woman

Can you see me

Breaking chains

Mend your own fence

I’m busy building walls

With secret doors and secret codes

Fending off facetious followers

Who plague my peaceable Queendom

The time for niceties is done and over

Worrying what I give you and you take from me

Fearing rejection and reckless promises

No more fabricated fanciful freeloaders

Make-up and masks

Burn in the flames of your malevolence

New laws have been written

To protect the real and resplendent

I run with my own broken pack.

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Sign of the Times

(When I come across a song that touches me, I try to share it. I thought you might enjoy this also. It’s very thought-provoking.)

With his debut single “Sign of the Times,” Harry Styles delivered an instant pop-rock classic on Friday (April 7). Embarking on a solo path after One Direction announced a break, the singer channels singer-songwriter vibes with the help of songwriters Tyler Johnson, Alex Salibian, Ryan Nasci, Mitch Rowland, and Jeff Bhasker. The power ballad pulls influences from the likes of David Bowie, Pink Floyd and Prince, but it’s likely the honest lyrics that will really get to Directioners — and anyone who gives it a listen, for that matter.

Check out the song’s lyrics below.

“Sign of the Times”

Just stop your crying

It’s a sign of the times
Welcome to the final show
I hope you’re wearing your best clothes
You can’t bribe the door on your way to the sky

You look pretty good down here
But you ain’t really good
We never learn

We’ve been here before
Why are we always stuck and running from
The bullets, the bullets
We never learn
We’ve been here before
Why are we always stuck and running from
Your bullets, the bullets
Just stop your crying

It’s a sign of the times
We gotta get away from here
We gotta get away from here
Just stop your crying
It’ll be alright
They told me that the end is near
We gotta get away from here
Just stop your crying

Have the time of your life
Breaking though the atmosphere,
And things look pretty good from here
Remember everything will be alright

We can meet again somewhere
Somewhere far away from here
We never learn

We’ve been here before
Why are we always stuck and running from
The bullets, the bullets
We never learn
We’ve been here before
Why are we always stuck and running from
The bullets, the bullets
Just stop your crying

It’s a sign of the times
We gotta get away from here
We gotta get away from here
Stop your crying, baby
It’ll be alright
They told me that the end is near
We gotta get away from here
We never learn

We’ve been here before
Why are we always stuck and running from
The bullets, the bullets
We never learn
We’ve been here before
Why are we always stuck and running from
Your bullets, the bullets
We don’t talk enough

We should open up
Before it’s all too much
Will we ever learn
We’ve been here before
It’s just what we know
Stop your crying, baby

It’s a sign of the times
We gotta get away
We gotta get away

Juggling Depression And Compliments – A Guest Post By Mindfump

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(Image I added, hope you don’t mind, Mindfump)

We have minds which are inherently negative, we like to complain and we like to mope about all the bad stuff in the world, as opposed to the good. My only evidence for that is in fact that previous sentence, which is inherently negative. Like some inception based literary negativity. Logically speaking though there are some very good reasons to have a negative disposition, especially when confronted with the uninvited obtrusion that is the compliment.

The compliment presents a conundrum. Like an alien descending to earth, why are they here? What do they want? Are they going to eviscerate me? All valid questions. The compliment disrupts the order of things, especially in the mind of a depressed person. They have a negative outlook, often surrounded by negative imagery of oneself and this intrusive compliment messes up this nice dark world of negativity.

Even for the non-depressed a compliment is met with suspicion. This is for a good reason. There is more to gain from a compliment, the giver of a compliment could be trying to curry favour, or trying to manipulate you in other ways. Like that weird shield around the alien ship in Independence Day, the compliment just bounces off, it rarely reaches the soul.

Criticisms on the other hand penetrate easily, like that guy who flies up the beam at the end (spoiler). The criticism will head straight for the core, and hit hard. This is also a logical conclusion. This is because there is nothing to gain for the person saying it, or so you think. The list of reasons someone would give you a compliment is extremely long, the list of reasons someone would give you a criticism is a short list with ’it is probably true’ on it.

We are programmed to want to be right, and if you are depressed your thoughts are usually that you are not good enough or not attractive enough, or intelligent enough. When someone criticises us it validates us, ‘see I was right!’. When the alien comes along in the form of a compliment, it goes against what we think. We were wrong? That is not right, I don’t believe that.

So how do we get these compliments to penetrate the shield of negativity?

Well, we need to narrow the list of alternative reasons for getting the compliment – obviously. We need to narrow it down to a point where there is only ‘because it is probably true’ left. That is difficult though.

When I worked for an insurance company, they had a campus style setting. Everyone was based in this one area, and we had access to sports facilities, food, games, and obviously work. In one of the restaurants I used to see this man sit alone every day, and after a couple of weeks I went over and just sat next to him. We chatted for a good while about not a lot, and then just as I was about to leave he said that it was good chatting, and that it was lonely at the top. Turns out he was the CEO of the company.

After talking to him more, I realised that people only ever said superficial good things to him, or nothing at all. Their career depended on it – or so they thought. Clearly I did not think this as I was telling him things like; how I’d cut off a customer once to ask out a girl in the office or how it is better to call in sick than be late.

For him, the list of reasons he would get a compliment are huge. That is the same as someone suffering from depression or anxiety. The list is huge, because their even more prone to the negative. Typically though they’re not CEOs of multi-million pound companies. Although I have very limited research to back that up, and by very limited I mean zero.

For the perfect compliment then we need to narrow that list, we need to get it from a trustworthy source and it needs to be in a situation which is not only a benefit to the sayer. Love is typically the answer, if it comes from a place of love that usually reduces the list of reasons enough to be believable. So now that I have figured out the formula, all I have to say is ‘I love you, always be yourself, you are fabulous’.

Mindfump.

My comment: Mindfump, do you ever write anything that isn’t awesome? Now, you’re suspicious, huh? Hey, it goes with being bipolar, and especially being borderline personality. I would imagine that those of us who read your messages are struck by the same thoughts. Apparently those who commented certainly understand, as do I. So, let’s just come together and try to trust each other. It’s really hard, but there are some of us who don’t have manipulative thoughts but just want to make someone else truly feel good, since most of the time we don’t feel good about ourselves. Anyway, I loved your thoughts. Gotta run over and reblog them on my blogs. Other people will surely relate and you will help many people feel better today in knowing they aren’t alone. livingontheborderlineinbipolarville.wordpress.com  Oh, I guess I should add, I’m not trying to get something out of you by complimenting you, but I will pass on your wise words, if that’s ok. I forgot to ask your permission. But if you’re like me, you hope there is some part of you that is helping the rest of the world!

Aggrandizement

We grasp for materialistic things like it will bring us happiness but all we ever find in this, is shallow unfulfilled emptiness. There is no joy to be found in aggrandizing your life, in an attempt to feel achievement because it’s only ever a temporary fix, before it becomes old and meaningless. There is more joy […]

via Aggrandizement — fauxcroft

I Say If I’m Beautiful. I Say If I’m Strong. You Will Not Determine My Story, I Will – Amy Schumer

When we feel unsure of ourselves, or self-conscious, it’s easy to look for answers in the people around us. We see how other people treat us, realize what they think of us, and let those opinions define how we feel and act. However, if you catch yourself doing this, it’s important to break the habit…

via I Say If I’m Beautiful. I Say If I’m Strong. You Will Not Determine My Story, I Will – Amy Schumer — The Seeds 4 Life

#84 Embarrassed – ‘Celebrate Yourself, Respect Difference’ — Mindfump.

Enjoying the blog? like the page on facebook! I can’t be the only one who suddenly starts denying the existence of things out of embarrassment. Like when Shaun Davidson was over playing at my house and found a poster I had made with magazine cut outs of the Spice Girls. At first I didn’t understand […]

via #84 Embarrassed – ‘Celebrate Yourself, Respect Difference’ — Mindfump.